Recently, I observed a parent tell their child to cover their mouth when the child coughed. No big deal. Here is the issue though: in about an hour time frame she told him 15 times. Not once did the child cover his mouth. He simply ignored her. What went wrong? Why could she not teach … Continue reading Teaching Children to Cover their Mouths Before Coughing
I recently received an email from a parent who home schools her two boys. She asked if there were any Love and Logic® tools for home school parents. Through my own experience homeschooling my daughters, as well as coaching other parents in the Seattle area – two fantastic resources came to mind: The Love and … Continue reading Homeschooling Parents: Relationship is Key
I recently, had a profound parenting lesson in a very unexpected setting. Who would have thought that an Italian chef making tomato sauce would turn into a parenting lesson… I was in Italy, Tuscany to be specific. If you know anything about the area of Tuscany, you know it’s all about the food and wine. … Continue reading Tomato Sauce Parenting Lesson
One of our Facebook fans wrote, “Is lying about brushing your teeth something to drop for my 11-year-old son? As we are pressing into the teenage years I am questioning what is worth not letting go because it is still lying which I don’t want to condone.” Lying is unacceptable and wise parents don’t ignore … Continue reading 3 Parenting Tips for When Kids Lie
Today I met with a mom who has been using Love and Logic® and her empathetic one-liner is “I love you too much to argue.” The problem is that she keeps arguing with her 10-year-old daughter. Back and forth, round and round until both of them are in total frustration and tears. When I pointed … Continue reading Parenting Challenge with Empathetic Responses from Love and Logic® and 5 Tips to Conquer It!
Common Parenting Question About Energy Drain Difficulties: I recently received a great question from a parent. It is a situation that occurs frequently, I know I dealt with it when our kids were growing up: “I have an 8 year old and have been trying to use the energy drain with him. I started last … Continue reading My Child is Talking Back When I Use the Energy Drain Tool From Love and Logic. What Do I Do?
Here is a question I received when I spoke at a conference recently: “How best do you work with an older kid/teen when they are getting upset and they want you to give them a solution?” There are a few Love and Logic® tools that are useful: First, Always Offer Empathy Empathy helps to connect … Continue reading How to Talk With Your Upset Child/Teen When They Expect You to Give Them a Solution
Parenting From My Perspective I think a lot of parents (including me) initially find themselves just treading water in communication with their child, without any real map or guide – just sort of guessing as to what to do when issues come up, and hoping for the best. It’s not that we don’t care about … Continue reading A Parenting Road Map Will Make Your Family Stronger and Happier
A Common Parenting Problem I recently read a chapter from Pete Rollin’s book “The Orthodox Heretic and Other Impossible Tales” It is a parable book that really stretches your thinking. The parable called “The Father’s Approval” outlines a father who lives much of his life in search of wealth and success, struggling to spend needed … Continue reading Simple Guidelines for Developing Your Child Into a Wise Adult
I had a parent email me this week with this situation: “We have run into something knew with our 5 year old. Lately when we ask her to do something, she replies with something like “I will not” or “I never will.” Usually she is kidding. She will say it with a smile on her … Continue reading Responding to Disrespect from your Child