I wrote a similar article on PRIDE skills a while back; this time I would like for you to see the outline along with a video of PRIDE skills (or PCIT) in action! The video that I have embedded below was taken in the PCIT lab at Encompass in North Bend, WA.
PRIDE Parenting Skills in a Nutshell
PRIDE skills open up doors to increase relationship and control when you interact with your child on a daily basis – allowing for an opportunity to really connect on a deeper level. These PRIDE skills are a component of Parent–Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) which is a form of therapy developed by Sheila Eyberg for children ages 2–7 and their parents or caregivers.
P.R.I.D.E. is an acronym that stands for:
All of us need emotional connection and control (Maslow's hierarchy of needs). So the PRIDE skills give an intense dose to both of these needs.
How PRIDE Skills (Special Play Time) Can Be An Excellent Addition To Love and Logic® Tools.
In my practice as a parent educator and coach, I teach Love and Logic® skills. These tools work really well! But using PRIDE skills once a day for 5 minutes delivers even more choices and empathy benefits.
Here is a PRIDE parenting skills handout that outlines how to engage with PRIDE skills during play time. Be aware that the time stated on the handout (10-15 minutes per day) has changed. Research indicates that PRIDE play, done for just 5 minutes per day is enough to fill a child emotionally and also do-able for parents.
First, watch the video below, then follow the instructions.
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- Set up a play table.
- Tell the child that this is “our special play time” and he/she may play with any of the toys on the table.
- Next, apply the PRIDE skills to the play time.
- When 5 minutes (or more if you want, but remember 5 minutes is enough) is over, tell your child that “special playtime is over, but you will play again tomorrow.” Then give a choice of how many toys to pick up. Be sure to not get into a power struggle over clean up.
- The Don’ts are:
- No Questions
- No Commands
- No Criticism.
Be Careful - questions and commands put you as dominate this is a time that the child leads the play.
Here is a video outlining how to do Special Play Time with your child. As you watch the video, listen for the tools that are outlined above. It will help you do your special playtime. Don’t focus so much on exactly how the coach is coaching. It is just for an example of how the skills are used in a training lab.
Special Play Time is a great way to connect with your child!
If you have a child over the age of 7 years, the PRIDE skills can also be used in normal interaction.