I recently was in Hawaii with our oldest daughter. I was her stand-in for her husband who is serving in Afghanistan in the army. We stayed at the Hale Koa Hotel, which is a military hotel for soldiers and their families to have an affordable holiday, a great gift to all those serving our country.
Something my daughter and I noticed was that all the children were so well behaved. In the seven days we were there, we only saw one moment that a child was acting entitled, what many people call “bratty.” He was about 8 years old and did not like the soft drink his dad ordered for him as they prepared to watch the sunset. Both parents were embarrassed, we all would be. But both parents stayed pretty calm and his mom removed him from the table. He eventually returned and apologized to those at the table and gave his dad a hug and said, “I love you.” The sunset, and all was fine.
My daughter and I commented how well the parents handled the situation and how weird it was that was our only issued kid we saw. So my question is why? We have been on many a vacation and we usually witness many stressful exchanges between kids and their parents. In fact, we once brought our 15, 13, 11 year olds to Hawaii and did not bring them again on a vacation for 5 years. Here is what my daughter and I came up with as possible explanations for the consistent positive behavior:
- Really grateful kids to have their parent back from deployment.
- This is not a regular occurrence or expectation.
- The character qualities instilled by military experience.
- Dad is a literal drill sergeant…say no more.
Perhaps it is all of the above. I would love your feedback.